Stepping out

Where do We Start?

So, we decided to step out on faith and do whatever we needed to be obedient to this journey that I, and eventually the whole family, would be called into. We got home and talked about the whys and hows of adopting an older child and one from another country, etc. We talked with or friends- David and Jane- and asked how this all works and how will we ever get the funds, and what does the home study involve. There were a million questions and we had no idea how this was going to happen, but we had to give that over to God.

I struggle with control issues- I know how shocking this revelation will be to all my friends! This was going to prove to be my most difficult lesson in this. However, God puts people in our lives to help give us the reality check we need at times. After being told, several times by my friend Jane, that I needed to just get over any semblance of having control in this, I heard it again from another lady at church. She knows the struggle, because she went through it as well when they adopted their son. She was very sweet and VERY real with me. As we chatted by the bathroom sink on a Sunday morning, she looked at me and laughed (I think it was sort of that knowing kind of laughter) and said "Jeannie, you are NOT in control of any of this, God is. And the sooner you realize this and get on board with it, the better you will be and the sooner you start to see things come together." I don't know why her telling me was any different than when Jane did, but it was like that moment in a cartoon when the light bulb literally pops up above the characters head! From that day on, I have made a conscious decision everyday to tell God that He is in control of this adoption and I am just doing my best to be obedient. Surprise...things started to go more smoothly and I wasn't as stressed. Is everyday perfect and without hiccups...heck NO! But I find myself drawn back to those few moments here and there where I am reminded that I am not in control and IT IS OKAY!

So, we proceeded to find an agency that could and would do our home study, given the short amount of time we had. Oh yes, we began the process in earnest in August and he was aging out in late December! This meant that we had to act quickly and get our home study finished and paperwork filed with USCIS before that happened. That gave us a limited number of choices for agencies and all the paperwork that must be gathered from various states- we moved around a bit as the military will do. Every single day counted and there was not one to spar if this was going to happen. We connected with an agency and then 6 weeks in, they said they didn't want to do our home study after all. We were devastated and shocked! How were we going to find an agency that could make this happen now? We asked people to pray and contacted a new one. That was the BEST thing that could have happened for us. The new agency was more than happy to help and understood the plight of this child if we didn't adopted him. Our social worker was and continues to be amazing! She and I talked and on a Wednesday we set up our 3 home visits, the first of which she drove to us (3.5 hours) on a Sunday afternoon. We met that Sunday and completed the first visit and interviews with 2 kids. The social worker was very realistic and very proactive and helped us complete things quickly.

Changing agencies was very hard to get my head around too because now with a new agency came a new requirement of either another agency to sign off or an immigration attorney. This of course meant more expense. Well, because of some generous friends and certain circumstances, we had the money to cover that. Again, God stepped in and spoke to some friends' heart and they had prayed about it and decided to bless us with enough to cover the fees that we had at that time! So, when we found that we needed more funds for this part, we asked for prayer and kept on doing some fundraising. we have been so blessed through the whole thing and God has not let us down! He keeps showing up! I guess He figured that if I was going to give up control, and let Him drive this, then He was going to show me in BIG ways that He is in control! And yet, at this point I was still trying to get in the drivers seat.

By the time we started heading in to November and the deadline was getting closer for filing our papers with immigration, all I wanted for Christmas was to know that we had the documents done in time! We decided that our main gift for each other (myself and hubby) was to get this boy filed to give him a forever home! Because of the expense of the adoption, we talked to our kids and it was agreed that Christmas was going to be done small this year so we could fund bringing home a new son. We also, wanted to go home to see family and introduce this boy through pictures to them.

The Monday before Christmas, we got the call from our immigration attorney that the documents had been filed! They were sent FedEx on Monday and he turned 16 on that Saturday!